Does size really matter?

There is this debate that seems to come up every few seconds. Ladies are asked to choose between size and performance. Whoever thought it up must be compensating. If it’s a woman, she is with a man who is small and she’s trying to make herself feel better for it. If it’s a man, he definitely has a small equipment.

Okay, maybe I’m being a little harsh. But, seriously, are there only two types of men in the world: those with anaconda and those with cigarette? And, just to make the world fair, the anaconda-man has to be useless in manoeuvring his equipment while the cigarette-man knows how to do wonders with his. There are no in-betweens.; absolutely none. You’re either one or you’re the other.

Again, there is the other matter of people wanting exactly what they want. They may pretend all they want about it, but they know that given the choice, they would go with this and not that. I read in a novel about a woman whose idea of great sex is doing it with a man that has “penis the size of a waste-bin.” You can preach all you want about size not mattering. But, bet ya, every time she is sexually attracted to a man, her eyes will drop to that spot in his pants. If she thinks there’s the beginning of something promising, maybe an appreciable enough bulge, she might decide to explore with her hands to confirm. She doesn’t want to end up in a room with a pest in her hands.

I just feel the entire debate on size is pointless. What we should be asking is: what does a woman want in bed? So, I asked a few of my friends, married and single, what is quality or criteria that would make them say: Yeah! Now, that’s what I’m talking about! I’ll let you read it from the horses’ mouth:

Yemi: I love a good head and can cum before the sex proper. I’m in Saturn at that point and only a turgid dick can bring me back to earth. This is quality sex to me and a few quickies if we are in danger of son intruding. But quickie is awesome sex too when it’s unexpected. Best cum position for me is doggie. I can cum multiple times! It’s about the feel of the dick. Very hard! Good use of it is utmost, not size. Although I’m not talking about abnormally short ones.

Mary: I’m very big on variety. I love unusual places. I like fast and furious thrusting. Yeah, size matters to me. Coke bottle, thank you very much! Preferred positions are: doggie, me on top, and missionary for when I need convincing.

Lola: Detailed foreplay for me is very key, because the intimacy we share is what will get me going by the time I am ready for the thunder thrust. Our movement must be in sync with each other. The kind of lovemaking whereby when I cum, the whole earth beneath me is shaking. Because I’m kinda small, I don’t really appreciate a massive size. Moderate is good for me, anyhow, moderate or small. But, it just has to be turgid. Very hard! Can’t be dealing with jelly-like things. Position matters too. I like to lie face down whilst he does it from behind, his hand under my thigh to massage my clit while thrusting. For me, this guarantees cumming in minutes.

Iffy: I need to feel it’s more than just the act with him. I want to feel there is a heart connection in it too. I want to feel we are about to make each other feel good so he’s not just about his pleasure. For me, it’s not about quantity but quality, so I’d prefer 5 minutes of sublime pleasure over twenty minutes of ‘please, while will this be over’ sex. Lovemaking is beautiful in the context of marriage. It is worship. It is also warfare. It is the glue that men believe holds it all together. As far as variety goes, I like to mix it up but it’s not a deal breaker for me.

Chioma: My husband is into foreplay and oral sex. In the beginning I carried my impatience into the bedroom. While I enjoyed it, I couldn’t wait for the real thing. I prefer rear entry because of the pressure it puts on my clit. I think that’s my best position. We have explored all sorts of variety and even done it in his office. I guess the risk of getting caught added to the thrill. Our baby was conceived in the most awkward position. And on the day my husband returned from overseas. I guess enough conji.

Chinenye: For me sex is good when the guy is cute, lovely body. That means I will have to love him. A good kisser (some are terrible). Then, he will be very good with oral sex and know how to use his tongue in that department. I don’t like fingering. I prefer the tongue doing the work. You will agree with me that a sizeable dick is awesome and the guy also knowing how to use it.